FREE 5-DAY AUDIT FOR SENIOR WOMEN DONE WITH OBEDIENCE
The Unwritten Rules
The Unwritten Rules
Five days to see them clearly enough to disobey them.
You built the career. You delivered the results. You stayed composed in rooms that didn't deserve your composure.
And something still doesn't add up.
Not because you've failed. Or because you're not ready.
Not because of imposter syndrome, or a confidence problem, or a morning routine you haven't committed to.
Because you’ve been following a set of rules that aren’t yours.
Nobody handed you this list. Nobody sat you down and said: here are the conditions under which your power will be tolerated. But you learned it all the same. Precisely, efficiently, and at great cost to you.
Rules like:
Be direct — but not threatening.
Be ambitious — but make sure it's palatable.
Be strong — but soft enough that nobody feels managed.
Earn the right to take up space — every time, in every room.
Don't let them see how much you want it.
Make them like you before you ask them to respect you.
Your discomfort is not the room's problem. Manage it privately.
You've been following these rules so long, that you’ve told yourself they’re actually just your personality. Like your self-awareness. Like your judgment.
They're not. They're instructions. Written by a system that needed you manageable, compliant and small
This sequence doesn't teach you how to be more confident.
It doesn't give you scripts for how to speak differently.
Those sequences and scripts are just another way to get you to comply – change your behaviour so you fit better in the room.
Not this time.
I’m here to show you the rules — so clearly, so specifically, so undeniably — that going back becomes impossible and disobedience becomes your only option.
WHAT'S INSIDE
Five days. One stage at a time.
Each day delivers a short video and a single prompt. No worksheets. No homework. Just the mirror — and what you do with what you see in it.
Day 1 — The Revelation
Which rules are you blindly following?
Because it was never you. These aren't your patterns — they're instructions you absorbed and that were programmed so deeply that you stopped being able to see the programme and just thought it was your personality. Today you name those rules.
Day 2 — The Rage
Here's what subconsciously obeying those rules has cost you. Not theoretically. Specifically. This is the day you're allowed to feel the full weight of it — recognising the cost is what makes the refusal possible and we’re not here to sugar coat it.
Day 3 — The Evidence
It wasn't personal, itwas a system. The data that proves what you suspected but talked yourself out of — because it felt too convenient, too much, too victim-y. You were right.
Day 4 — The Refusal
This isn’t a soft reframe. It’s not a mindset shift. It’sa refusal — of terms you were never asked to agree to. This is the day you decide you’re done obeying, and the rules are getting ripped up.
Day 5 — The Return
Not a new you — the one who was always there, before the rules got louder than she did. What she sees now. What she does on a Monday morning, and every day after that.
FOR THE WOMAN WHO
Has done everything right — and is quietly furious that it still feels like it costs too much.
Has built the credibility and delivers the results, yet is still exhausted by how much energy it takes to manage the gap between who you are and who the room expects you to be.
Describes her biggest barriers in terms of confidence, clarity, or patterns — and suspects, on some level, that the problem is bigger than that.
Has tried the coaching, done the mindset work, powered through the self-doubt. And keeps running into the same wall.
Knows exactly what she'd say if she wasn't calculating whether it was safe. Has known all along.
WHAT CHANGES
This isn't about turning up your visibility.
And it’s not about fixing you, because you were never broken.
It's about stopping the negotiation — the constant internal calculation of how much of yourself is safe to bring into the room.
It’s about freeing yourself from the subconscious obedience
When you can see the rules clearly, you can refuse them. When you refuse them, you stop spending your energy on the gap between who you are and who the room wants you to be.
That energy doesn't disappear. You get it back.
And when that energy changes from one of compliance to one of power, the room adjusts to you. Not the other way around.
That changes everything downstream: your next role, your next negotiation, your next conversation where you used to soften but now you don't, your relationships, your time, your wellbeing.
The women who do this work don't learn how to perform more confidence. They stop needing to, and instead become inevitable.
ABOUT LAUREN
Former brand leader for Amazon and Disney. Now I help senior women identify the invisible rules that have been running their careers - and disobey them.
I didn't build this work from theory. I built it from the inside of the same rooms you're in. The same calculations. The same exhaustion. And now I live a different set of rules – ones that are mine, created for me. I’m not here to apologise for my confidence, my brilliance, my boundaries. I’m here to help other women unlock theirs.
I've been doing this work for 7+ years. I’m one of the UK’s top rated speakers, I work with household name brands and support senior level women in some of the biggest organisations in the world.
What I offer isn't about fixing you. You were never broken.
It's about showing you the rules - so you can finally stop using them as your reasons not to.
Five days. No performance required.
Just the rules — and what you decide to do with them.
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